Why I'm Here

It dawned on me today that I haven't shared my story... at least not this part of it.

Last year, I launched a kids brand, together with my business partner.  We introduced a children's hoop dance DVD called Molly and the Hoola Monsters, along with a new website and blog.  I told you how grateful I was (and still am) to see my dream turn into reality.  I let you know when the project was complete.  I asked you to purchase a copy and write a review on Amazon (and yep - I'm still plugging it ;).  But I never told you why I went down this path...  So, here's my story:

When I created Hoola Monsters, 7 years ago, I did so because hoop dance became one of my greatest passions in life.  I also loved business, and starting my own company was both challenging and exciting.  So, I made the tough decision to leave an 8-year marketing and public relations career to pursue this passion full-time.

I started selling my handmade hoops at the Saturday Morning Market, and I'm still a regular vendor there.  It opened up so many doors and introduced hooping to my local community.  (Our farmer's market is the largest one-day-a-week market in the Southeast US, with approx. 10,000 customers coming through every week).  People stopped, stared, and asked questions.  This led to requests for classes, performances and all sorts of interesting opportunities.

But there was one question that I dreaded, and it kept coming up.  Everyone wanted to know, "Do you teach kids?"

I said no for an entire year. I couldn't understand why people thought hooping was just for kids.  It was serious business!  It was movement meditation, and I was a certified hoop fitness instructor.  I even created a tagline to hammer this point home:  "Some call it child's play. We call it a revolution."

And every week, people wanted to know: "When are your kids classes?"

So, one fateful Saturday, after a little girl in a pink dress fell in love with one of my sparkly hoops, I caved.  "Fine."  I'll teach a six-week kids series and see how it goes.  I committed, and then the fear crept in...

I'm never around kids.  I don't have kids of my own.  How will I relate to them?  How will they relate to me?  Where do I begin? What will we do in class?

There was no guidebook. No tutorials. No plan. Just me, my hula hoops, and a bunch of little faces staring back at me.

And then something amazing happened... We figured it out together.

Six weeks turned into six years, and some of the kids who were in my very first class are still with me today... including Molly, the star of my DVD.  They stole my heart.  Completely.  And they made me a better person.  Take a look...



I've interacted with so many creative, beautiful children over the years, and no two days are the same.  We learn from one another.  They trust me, and I'll never shoot down their dreams.  I get to show them that anything is possible.  Whether it's a new trick we invent together in class or serving as an example that we can be whatever we want in life, we're in it together.

So, when a child asks me if faeries are real, my answer will always be yes.  After all, it was the faeries who gave me the courage to say yes when self-doubt and fear crept in.  And without them, I wouldn't have discovered who I really am or why I'm here.

Not In Front of All These People!

As a vendor at the Saturday Morning Market in St. Pete, I meet lots of people.  I've been selling my handmade hoops there for 7 years, and during that time, the market has grown to become the largest one-day-a-week fresh market in the Southeast United States, with approximately 10,000+ customers coming through every Saturday.

I love meeting people, and it's always fun talking about my business... handmade hoops, classes, the new DVD, teacher trainings, and performances.  Usually, the kids come running.  They're drawn in by the live music, sunshine and sparkly hoops.  Many adults feel nostalgic and reflect back on their childhood with fond memories of hula hooping.

Hoola Monsters at the St. Pete Saturday Morning Market

I always have "beater" hoops at my booth, for demonstration and play.  These hoops have been dropped, scuffed, scratched, scraped and worn out.  I think of them like old baseball gloves.  They have character, history and every imperfection has a story behind it.  One of my beater hoops was even run over by a car, and it's still kickin'.

They aren't as pretty as the sparkly new hoops I have for sale, but they serve a very important purpose.  They exist to inspire people to step out of their comfort zones... to try something new, and to be playful.  As adults, we sometimes forget how to play and lose ourselves in an experience.  Plus, it's fun to be silly and laugh at ourselves, right?

Or wrong?  For some, my innocent "beater hoops" are scary, scary things.  All too often, I hear statements like these:

"I used to be able to hula hoop."

"My hips don't move like that anymore."
"I was never a good hula hooper."

"I'm too old for that."

And my personal favorite:

"Not in front of all these people!"

Now, I'm not talking about the people who walk by without interest.  I understand that hooping isn't for everyone, and I certainly don't take that personally. It's the people who look over with curiosity and interest but refuse to try...  that's who I'm talking about.  Why do we care so much about what others think?  Why do people perceive it to be humiliating if they aren't immediately great at something?

I think it's a metaphor for life... We're going to fall and we're going to mess up.  It's how we handle the mess ups that make all the difference.  We can move through it and flow with grace or we can feel defeated, embarrassed and humiliated.  The choice is always ours.

I was thinking about all of this as I drove to North Tampa after the market on Saturday night, for a gig.  I was dressed in a gold disco hoodie, black and gold shorts, fishnets, combat boots, a black corset and wearing sparkly red lipstick... typical costume.

The talent agency booked us, and I didn't know much about the client.  I just knew that Matthias, Alice and I would be performing for approximately 100 people, and it was a corporate event.  The agency also requested crowd participation and asked us to get people out on the dance floor.  Turns out, we were performing at a dinner party for bankers, and this would be easier said than done.  It was a pretty conservative group, to say the least, and I think it's safe to say that most had never seen hoop dancing or a LED/ Glow show before (our hoops have more than 100 different modes and there are computerized chips that enable the patterns and colors to change every 15 seconds... makes for a great light show ;).  So, directly after dinner, the DJ announced us, and the lights were lowered.  The crowd went wild!!!!  Just kidding. They stared at us like deer in headlights.

So, when the time came for us to visit the tables and get people hooping, we knew it was going to be challenging.  I could see the sheer terror in their eyes as we approached, and our hearts were pounding too.  An excited crowd and interested participants makes for a much easier performance.  Eventually, people got up and hoop danced with us.  And when that happened, a handful of their co-workers sprang into action and started videotaping with their phones.  Ya know, to help lower people's inhibitions ;)

We offered mini lessons, and everyone who tried it succeded.  In situations like this, all we can do is be lighthearted, playful, expressive, creative, and fun.  We smile bigger, connect more, and engage the audience.  It works, too.

As we were leaving, we received praise and kind words from party goers.  Challenges make us stronger, and stepping outside of our comfort zones helps us to grow.  So, I invite you to do something that scares you today.

Chances are, it won't be as scary as you think.

Conquering Fear

I've never said, "I should stop working out hard and start eating poorly."

Sure, I can blame it on the holidays, the weather, or the simple fact that french fries taste sooooo good!  I can justify it, too.  I taught two hoop dance classes today, so I don't need to go to the gym.

Then the fateful day comes when those favorite jeans become a bit too snug.  Or maybe the wake up call happens when a simple friendly gesture turns catastrophic. Oh, hello no!  My arm just jiggled like jello when I waved goodbye!

While we may not make conscious decisions to let our fitness levels slip, it's never fun when we realize that we've fallen off the wagon. Four weeks ago, I had some of those, "It's time to get my ass in gear" moments.

So, I started taking body combat group fitness classes again and amped up my yoga practice.  I also cut back on french fries (my weakness) and alcohol.  Now, I'm not saying that I'm cutting fries and cocktails out of my diet forever. Moderation is key, and right now, I'm focused on jump starting a healthy fitness program.  Yep, this is what I'm talking about:

Organic goodies from the market, Raw Revolution & Purium's Power Shake

In making these changes, three things became crystal clear:
1) My energy level is much higher.
2)  I freaking LOVE cardio kickboxing, body combat and mixed martial arts.
3) I have a real passion for inspiring others to live happier, healthier lives.

I've been a cardio kickboxing enthusiast for more than 15 years (I've got the whole library of Billy Blanks Tae Bo videos; I've taken countless martial arts inspired group fitness classes, and I even trained with a MMA fighter back when I lived in NYC).  I've been wanting to teach Cardio Kickboxing for a long time, but I kept putting it off because I didn't think I was fit enough or motivational enough to teach it.  Simply put, I was afraid of failure.

Then, something interesting happened...  I found out that the most prestigious golf and country club in my area was searching for a new fitness instructor.  I'm up for renewal on my ACE group fitness certification, and I had continuing education credits to complete.  So, what did I do?  I got certified as a Cardio Kickboxing instructor (and I'm continuing to hone my skills with the Les Mills Body Combat teacher training, which is coming up in March).

I applied for the job, and I got it!  Not only am I teaching hoop dance, I'm also on the schedule for Cardio Kickboxing, and starting in March, I'll be subbing some group strength training classes.

As I sit here typing this, my muscles ache, but I'm feeling motivated and determined.  Sure, it was stressful teaching my first official class to a room packed full of fitness freaks (including the recreation program supervisor).  I definitely have room to grow.  My counts are a little off, and sometimes I forget to cue the moves in advance.  But I'll get better.  I know I will.

So, I'll end this blog post with two questions.  Feel free to comment or just marinate on it...
Is there something that you wish to accomplish but fear is holding you back?  What's another possibility?

Molly and the Hoola Monsters

Turning dreams into reality... this project has been a long time coming.  So excited to finally share it :)

Choosing Self Love in Relationships

This morning, my dear friend Shawnee Faye Hunter, inspired me with these words:

"When people choose to talk about other people in a negative way, I have learned not to participate. I understand that they are not happy with themselves or they are jealous of the other person. Either way, I send prayer and love their way, allowing them to open up to their own freedom. (You can do this too, don't fall into the trap). Gossiping is poison and will rip your insides out, then pour them on the ground filling your space with darkness. When you choose to spread rumors, you give up the power you are so worthy of. WAKE UP AND CHOOSE LOVE!!!!!!! YOU ARE WORTHY OF SELF LOVE."

Her message came to me at the perfect time.  Just this week, I cut ties with an individual who I wasn't communicating well with.  I started to notice that I was consistently feeling drained after spending time with this person.  I began to question the reasons why we hung out, until ultimately - the decision to cut ties became crystal clear.

Making the decision to sever a toxic relationship can be tricky.  I like to be liked, and I kept thinking about the circumstances that led to our conflict.  I felt compelled to reach out to this person.  Instead, I handled it in silence...  it was hard.  I'm not usually one to bite my tongue.  I meditated on it and refrained from communicating.  I realized that I am not responsible for what others say and do.  I am, however, fully responsible for my own thoughts, actions and reactions.  For this reason, I am making a conscious effort to be careful with my words.  And like my mom always said, "If you can't say anything nice about someone, then don't say anything at all."  Instead, I silently sent this person positive vibes and well wishes for a happy, healthy life.

Some relationships are toxic, and they can come in the form of friendships, romantic partnerships, business interactions... they can pop up almost anywhere.  Let's love ourselves enough to take notice when a relationship no longer serves us.  Let's refrain from gossip, hateful games, and spreading rumors.  While it can be difficult to cut ties with people who don't align with this mentality, it's for the best. We can send them love and peace and just go our separate ways.  And if we catch ourselves slipping into old patterns, just STOP and choose the positive path.  

I am making a conscious decision to surround myself with like minded people.  My friend circle is a sacred space, and I believe that friendships should be based on love, trust, honesty and mutual respect.

Sending love to you today and well wishes for healthy, honest, loving and fulfilling relationships...

Dreams DO Come True

"My loving truth shines for all to see" - Deepak Chopra

This year, so far,  has been one of massive transformation.  I'm taking notice of thought patterns and belief systems that no longer serve me, and I am replacing them with positive affirmations for the greater good.  Sometimes I slip and forget.  And when that happens, I do my best to identify what new possibilities exist.  Take Facebook, for example:  I'm guilty of posting updates and/ or pictures and then falling into ego-centric loops.  "Is what I said acceptable?" "Do I look ok in that photo?" "Who's commenting and what did they say?"  There have been times when I neglect to be present with the people around me because I'm glued to my phone or computer.  By recognizing these behavior patterns, I am now able to stop them, in the moment, and re-focus my attention.  Being present NOW is a powerful place to be.

Daily meditation keeps me centered, and I've been doing a lot more yoga.  Reading spiritual books such as Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" and "Awakening to a New Earth" have been wildly transformational.  This year, I also completed Gratitude Training (my dad affectionately calls it a love cult)... it was definitely a positive, life changing experience.  Of course, Purium entered my life this year too, and pumping my body full of greens and plant-based goodies is keeping my energy level high.  I start every day with either LOVE or the Power Shake.  I like to blend it with half a banana, almond milk, sprouts and natural peanut butter...  it makes for a powerhouse breakfast, and it's especially helpful on days when I'm entertaining/ teaching lots of kids.

I've had the opportunity to attend food healing workshops, and some long-term changes have been made.  I've been off dairy, processed soy and caffeine for months, and I'm consuming lots of healthy raw, organic, vegan food.  REAL food.  Food that comes from Mother Nature.  I feel energized, clear minded and productive as a result.

New people have entered my life too.  Creative, intelligent, dependable, loving, supportive, amazing people.  People who show up and do whatever it takes to help out.  I'm blown away by their love, support and generosity.  Blair Welcome:  I swear, you are an angel on Earth.  I have so many people to thank and acknowledge, and I can't wait to do so at our DVD release party... stay tuned for details on that  :)

To bring you up to speed:  For a couple of years now, I've dreamed of creating a children's hoop dance DVD.  And it's finally happening!  Production began on Monday, and I couldn't be happier with the way things are coming together.  My business partner and I have a great relationship, and it's been a pleasure working together.  We filmed at two locations on Day 1, and there was a moment that brought me to tears.  I looked around at one point and realized there were more than 50 people on set.  They were all there (family members, friends, students, production team, cast members) supporting my vision and turning my dream into reality.  I was overwhelmed with gratitude.

Lights...  Camera...  Action!

We are heading into a busy few days of filming, and I'm feeling healthy, inspired and loved.  I believe that working with children is part of my life's purpose.  The goal of the DVD is to instill a message of creativity and self confidence, while encouraging kids to follow their dreams.

I also believe that a bright light shines within each and every one of us.  We all have big gifts to share, and when we tap into our creativity and passion, possibilities are endless.

Dreams DO come true!

Transformation Day 10

Beer & Meat Lovers Pizza to Celebrate Success

JUST KIDDING!  I went to see Umphrey's Mcgee at Jannus and afterwards, the boys wanted pizza.  I thought this was the perfect photo opportunity for my Day 10 blog ;)

I'll admit that the pizza smelled good, but the grease running down my arm when I took the picture was reason enough to put it down.  Plus, I'm going on three months without dairy, and I feel good about that.  I'm sure that I'll have a beer from time to time, but I wasn't in the mood last night.  I was feeling naturally energized and high on life.  It was actually really liberating to be at a show and not drink.  I danced... A LOT.

Earlier in the day, I vended my handmade hoops at the Saturday Morning Market. It was Salenna's birthday, and I'm grateful that she chose to spend part of it working with me.  Molly, along with fellow students from my kids class, came to help out also.  The weather was amazing... bright, sunny and perfect for hoop dancing.  We did pretty well in sales too!

Hanging with Miss Molly

So, this is it!  I've finished my 10-Day Transformation.  It went by quickly and felt so much easier than the first time around.  It was important for me to complete the cleanse in excellence, and I DID IT!  I acknowlege myself for that.  I'm also down a solid 12 pounds, from the time Purium entered my life.

Before leaving the market, I stocked up on fresh organic veggies: kale, beets, carrots, sunflower sprouts, onion, and bok choy.  I also picked up some raw local honey, 2 fresh coconuts and pickles (gotta have my pickles).  I came home in time to meditate, take a quick nap, and then get ready for the concert.  I was going strong energy-wise and thinking about all of the changes I've experienced over the past 10 days, as well as my commitement to maintain results.

Organic Veggies from Market

Speaking of making changes and maintenance, I've received some feedback about my cleanse being "hard core," and the word "vegan" seems to be intimidating for some.  Whatever we choose is completely up to us, as individuals.  I choose not to put labels on my way of eating.  I was a carnivore for many years, and then I gradually started to cut out meat.  This was an 8-year process.  I've also gone back and forth between "vegetarian," "pescatarian" (eats fish), and "vegan."  Ultimately, I've decided to eat as clean as possible, and for me, that means no dairy, no processed food, no caffeine, no GMOs, no binders, fillers or preservatives, and no meat (with the exception of wild caught fish, once in a blue moon).

My dad is preparing to do the cleanse, and he has no intention of cutting out meat long-term. I'm certainly not here to pass judgement.  My intention is to raise consciousness about food addictions and unhealthy patterns to support my friends and family in living happy, healthy lives.  I am also committed to leading my example. Listening to our bodies and do what's best for our health and well being is the ultimate goal.  Empowering people to be the best versions of themselves is what I'm here for :)

I'm heading out for lunch with a friend at Leafy Greens, and I'm really excited about it. It will be my first sit down meal in 10 days.  This morning, I had L.O.V.E. blended with beet, carrot, raw honey, apple, a little fresh coconut meat, water and ice.  It kept me going strong until about 2:30 p.m.  The power of greens is amazing.  Here's a great book if you are interested in learning more:

The Green Foods Bible.

Until next time...

Sending Love,
Abby